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Mute R. Kelly and Others Like Him

Screenshot 2018-08-08 22.14.35Why are people still listening to the old 80’s and 90’s jams of R.Kelly? Now trust I used to be a big fan, even after I knew about the Aaliyah scandal, but I was a child and childish minded and knew no better. Not any longer. I block all his music. I refuse to let my dollars line his pockets to keep more young women in captivity.

This man is a predator. We seem to let men who are well liked, get away with sexual assault, I mean many people were backing Bill Cosby even after he was sentenced. (Yes I know that a sentence doesn’t always mean someones guilty, but yal we have to admit. Bill Cosby was guilty, just as R. Kelly is.

Then there are directors like Chris Stokes that we know abused young boys like the ones from B2K, but he is still making movies. Why? Because we are still watching. I went to watch a movie until I saw he was the director.

Screenshot 2018-08-08 22.13.47I refuse to put money in the pocket of someone who is inappropriate in their private lives. It’s like the more money we put in their pockets the more we are saying its ok. Is it? Would you trust your teenage daughter around R.Kelly? Would you let your son be alone with Chris Stokes? So why is ok to support them?

Why is it ok to support their careers when we will take down every racist white person who calls the police or spits racist words out their mouth. Why not do the same to the predators and child molesters? They are worse than the blatant racist because they pry on children and our young.

When can we start standing up against the bad in all our communities like we will the bad in others? I know we are standing up for our lives, but we have to show we respect ourselves by standing up against the ones who do wrong as well.

Screenshot 2018-08-08 22.15.27Mute R.Kelly. Mute Chris Stokes (stop acting in his movies for a check!) and mute all the men AND women who are awful people in real life. Supporting them means you support what they do, and I personally cannot rock with you.


We’re Going To Need More Wine

Gabrielle Union’s book tells stories that are funny, complicated and true.


Screenshot 2018-07-03 21.43.48The “mean” girl as she called herself, she has played on in some movies and in real life was “that” girl. I have been a fan of Gabrielle since the first time I saw her on a movie, I have always looked at her with admiration gives stories about being and becoming the her that we all see lives her life to the fullest. She doesn’t go in order from younger stories to adult stories, but her life as it comes to her. She talks about getting raped in a Payless, stress of fertility issues, the dating and marriage conflicts, and being a figure in the public eye as a step mother and a black actress. She talks about multiple friendships, relationships and people she has been uplifted by.

Screenshot 2018-07-03 21.41.06In her stories, Gabrielle Union tells her accounts of all things in her life and the meanings  she got from them. Some are funny, some are terrifying but they are all genuine and real. You can feel the emotion in her tone of voice where she needed to walked away, or she choked back a tear. She held nothing back as she gave account to all her stories.

Within this book of essays it tells the story that all women of color fear being a parent, becoming replaceable and just being in control. This book made me look inside myself and realize that I have always looked at every day like a start of something new. I remember being in the corporate world and allowing everyone else to dictate my life, when I went to the doctor. How I kept in contact with my family and my friends. I didn’t get a chance to enjoy life and my children.

Here I am years later and I am glad that life has given me a chance to take a moment and breath. To take a moment and get healthy due to me taking care of my mother and grandma, I have had a chance to take care of me.

Screenshot 2018-07-03 21.47.00.pngAs Gabrielle ends her book talking of her friendship with Sookie and her battle with Breast Cancer, I am in tears, as we don’t all get a chance to enjoy life, because we are too busy trying to fight it. To busy trying to live it and beat it.

I enjoyed Gabrielles book. I recommend it to all aspiring women, parents and even men to understand the things that a lot of us women deal with. Thank you Gabrielle, you have made me appreciate my life more and more.

Change You First – then the World

You say you’re ready for a revolution, but are you sure?


You say you want a revolution, but are you sure? You say you are tired of people being oppressed and want changes and call everyone in the neighborhood out for not standing up but are you?

See sometimes we need to stand up and be the change we want to see. We say we want them to stop killing our brothers and want the police to be held accountable for killing our people, but yet when little Ray Ray gets locked up for killing three people – you post “Free My Mans!” You don’t step up and stop those young men who are out acting disgraceful and disrespectful and you are guilty yourself of locking your doors when you see three black men in hoodies. IMG_7064

We yell that women should get equal pay and there should be no gender stereotypes and double standards for women, yet you talked down about Amber Rose’s Slut Walk marketing, or talk bad about Black Chyna for doing what men have been doing for years. Don’t remember, look up Mary J Blige. I’ll wait.

You say you don’t tolerate racism but you a black person, the “most” oppressed person on this planet hate white people, nor do you stand for others that are oppressed because who has heard of the Puerto Rico movement for Independence, or fight for the Veterans who are homeless and starving. How often do you stop to feed someone you see hungry on the side of the road or give up some of your savings to help a cause.

We are so quick to talk about someone else’s agenda and don’t look within ourselves. Justice starts within you. You have to start being that person that you want the world to be. How can you complain about others mistreating you if you are still mistreating others?

I originally started writing an article about the different movements, but I feel like any good movement starts within. We are responsible for ourselves and how we treat others. You can fight for equality if you have some prejudices in you. You have to fight the fight as well.

Screenshot 2017-07-06 17.03.41I hate to say it but it seems as if this day today is mostly about complaining and no action. We see a peaceful movement that Colin Kaepernick started and many were talking so bad about how he was doing it but not why. If you stand for something, you should stand for it no matter where you are. If you are a cop and you see that one of your “CO-WORKERS” (let me stress that word) is acting ugly and using his power for granted, its up to you to stop him and call him out.

I have seen some of the bravest souls make a stand during football and they are talked down because they are told the field is sacred. Remember Beyonce’s Formation ‘Half-Time Show’? Why? You should stand up in front of people and not just behind a computer screen.

Its time to stand up, but we have to stand up first to ourselves. We can’t fix the world if we refuse ourselves to be fixed.