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American Son – Netflix

No spoilers!

She waits, trying to patient, but unaware of where her son is or why she’s even been called into the police station. She is a black woman with a black son and the police officer giving her the run around is a young, fairly new white officer. She speaks articulate, yet firm, but he offers no information. He says he doesn’t have any. She knows she is being handled and managed, but he stands firm on not knowing anything.

While she walks to get water, in walks her husband, a white man in a power suit. “I’m so glad you’re here. This woman has gone from zero to ghetto in an instant.” He doesn’t know that this is her husband. He thinks this is the detective. He runs off information that he doesn’t tell her. Until he realizes he has made a mistake, where he then reverts back to not knowing anything.

They want to know where their son is. Her husband tells her to not jump to conclusion. He makes excuses for the cops and talks about the things he has noticed recently about their son. He is wearing baggy clothes now, listening to rap music and is hanging out with other black boys. He is having an identity crisis. She tries to explain the fear her son has as a black man, because when you are older than 10 in America, you are considered a man, but only if you are black. Yet the husband still doesn’t understand.

They wait and they wait to hear what is going on with their son, to speak with their son, to see their son. They go through the motions discussing racial differences as they wait. Her husband, not really understanding the mental confusion Jamal has, being one of three black students at his school when the world is watching young black men being shot and killed by police.

Have you seen it? I will not spoil it. But if you have not, be prepared to go through a world whirl of emotions as all that is wrong with the Justice system and race relations is played out in front of you. It displays a generational difference in what complacent “black people should do” verse our generation who prefers to fight for our rights.

Kerry Washington mastered this role, when she was angry, you were angry. She was stuck and not knowing what to do next, because placed in front of her was a situation where she felt she had no control. Oh and did I say her son just turned 18? No mother really knows how to raise a black son in todays world. She talks about how she lays awake at night afraid of what can possibly happen to her son. What has happened to other black boys who look like him. She fears because as a black male you are looked upon as a suspect because of the clothes you wear; the music you listen to; or just because you are, you. When you want your child to have a better life than you, but they are angry because no one around them looks like them.

I am at lost for words. This movie is powerful. This movie has my emotions on a rollercoaster and the movie is over. I think I will watch again. Knowing the ending…. but maybe not. What did you think?

This ending is how strong I want every book, every play I write to hit.

Official Trailer – YouTube

Netflix: First Match Review

I am a girl with Daddy issues, well, let me take that back, I used to be. I lived to make him proud and it killed me whenever he was mad at me, but I had a mother who more than made up for his absence, whenever and however long that was.

This movie could of been me, and many other girls I knew with Daddy Issues. That shit is so deep it should be in the DSM-V. I found this movie by mistake, but was immediately drawn in. It started off way different than what the movie was really about. The Netflix description is:

“A tenacious high school girl raised in foster homes in the inner city tries to reconnect with her ex-con father by joining a boys wrestling team.” – NETFLIX

Here is this girl, Mo, in foster care, who gets kicked her clothes thrown out the window by her foster mother because she slept with her boyfriend. Never mind that this is a child and your trifling ass boyfriend had sex with her – but as I said, the beginning in no way set the tone of the movie, it just hooked you.

Good job Olivia Newman (director) – that worked.

She believes when her father gets out of jail, that he is coming to get her out of foster care. She finds out the hard way one night, that her father was already out and had been for quite some time. He was working at a laundromat up the street from where she was. He never came looking for her.

Screenshot 2018-04-01 06.18.25Screenshot 2018-04-01 06.17.38So then comes the thing that any child would do, she started begging for his attention. Doing and saying anything to make him spend time with her. His attention was grabbed when she said she was on the boys wrestling team. It was something they connected with  when she was younger. So he was excited! In the beginning, even though she was sneaking to see him, he was making it to every match and kicking it with her afterwards giving her pointers.

Screenshot 2018-04-01 06.18.44But of course, as all parents addicted to the money, the hustle and the street life does, he finds a way to use his daughter to get money. I won’t spoil the rest for you but know she gets hurt and he runs. He runs and leaves her to fend for herself because he was more concerned with his own freedom.

 

This movie hit home because I just posted on Facebook about how my daughters are suffering because their fathers won’t show up for them. I believe that a child deserves both parents, whether or not you have money, being there and showing up for them is what counts. She was just as I was as a little girl, waiting and watching the door waiting for him to show up.Screenshot 2018-04-01 06.16.55

Drugs, jail, greed takes away and destroys families. I do believe this but I also know we all have choices. In the end, she has a choice she had to make. She had to choose the right path or fall back in with her father who time after time abandons and disappoints her.

This movie was good to me because it hits home. Someone that doesn’t have an on and off again relationship with their father may not understand. The film left a lot of loose ends and unanswered questions, but I got the point. I would love someone else views, someone who didn’t go through this. What their opinion would be?

More Than A Review… This is Real Life!!

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Honeytrap…

So its Thursday night (last week), and I have a broke down car and I decided to Netflix and chill by myself. So I usually watch a couple of shows, but I decided to try a movie I hadn’t seen before. Why did I pick this movie?

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I tell you why, because Jessica Sula’s cute face made me think this was going to be interesting. I loved her on Recovery Road, so I was interested to see something else with her in it. Interesting is not what I got. Instead I am left with my mind spinning on where I can begin to stop this from happening.

In case you all have never seen the movie, it came out in 2014 in the United Kingdom, its about a black teen named Layla who recently moved to London from Trinidad. Her mother left her with her grandparents, who were very touchy, to say the least. This girl comes to a mother, who you can tell knows nothing about being a mother. She doesn’t get her in school in time so she is shuffled to this school with metal detectors and babysitters in place of teachers.

She was destined to be with “gangstas”…  it was almost as if her mother left her to handle life on her own. She was able to be free and go where she pleased. She ran into Troy when a few fake friends used her to get into a video shoot. She was pretty, and they were a bit ghetto. You could tell she was pure, which led Troy straight to her. Her “relationship” with him and her so-called friends went down hill from that. She was jumped, abused and eventually left in the hospital after throwing herself in front of traffic.

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This movie was written because of true events, and even if that wasn’t written out, there are many situations like this everywhere. Young girls are having babies and have no idea what to tell their teenage children or teach them the right way. Many parents (and not just single ones) are so busy living their lives that they don’t think about what their children are going through.

It took a murder and police knocking at her door for Layla’ mother to realize this. Why? Why do we not see the signs of distress in our children? Children are committing murder, getting raped, stealing and being sent away because we aren’t watching. We aren’t paying attention. Social media makes it hard on parents, is one of the lamest excuses I have ever heard.

See social media and cellphones only become a problem when you let you children believe they have privacy. See me, I am all in my kids business. I know passwords and I will snatch a phone at the drop of a dime to go through it. We have to stay active parents, yes I know we all need a break here and there, but teenage years are the worst times to take breaks.

I have two teenage daughters and a preteen all under the same roof with a 1st grader. We make it work. They have their lives, but I am very BIG part of it. I know their friends and their friends know me. I am deemed as the cool parent, only because of my relationship with my girls.

See I am honest with my girls, I tell them the stuff that most parents sugar coat. I figure, why sugar coat? Being an adult isn’t sugar coated and its my responsibility to make them ready for the real world.

To get back to Honeytrap, this movies saddens me, because since its a black movie, half of America won’t watch, but the reality is, this happens everyday to girls of all race. Any young girl that is not confident in who she is has these predator boys lurking and plotting their move. We have to protect our daughters, AND we need to teach our sons and nephews how to treat and respect women.

If you feel you have a child going through any of this and you do not know what to do, there are resources and steps to take. Adolescents centers are not just for mental health issues, they are also for behavioral issues. And behavioral issues are anything that can lead to the destruction of themselves. Call your local hospital or outpatient therapy clinic for children. Depending on the assessment they can either go inpatient or outpatient. Stand up for your children, because if we don’t, how will they know how to for themselves.

Review!!! Thursday Special

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As I watched this movie the song “Why I Love You” by MAJOR played in my head, and as I write this article this song is on repeat, bringing tears with every note.

“I found love.. in you.. and no other love will do… every moment that you smile… chases all the pain away… forever and a while… in my heart is where you’ll stay..

This song wraps this movie up in the exact words and emotions. When I first heard this song, I realized that this is the kind of love that I want, the kind of love that will show no limits and no restrictions. The kind of love that will push you to love yourself beyond all measures and love life. The kind of love that makes you wake up ever morning smiling because of the possibilities.

This movie was all about fate. Lou Clark lost her job that she started six years prior on a dare. It was at a cute little coffee shop where she was amazing with the patrons. She was matched with a job, from the Career Center,  as a caregiver for Will Traynor, a bad boy turned paraplegic, who only wanted to give life a six months trial period after a horrible accident. What happened in front of my eyes was a love story, without all the glitz and glimmer, without the happy ending, but a true love story in itself.

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Will had a very fulfilling life before his accident and a very bland and meaningless life afterwards. When Lou came around in her crazy outfits, bad jokes and bubbly personality, she showed him what life could be like while making the best out of a bad situation.

His parents thought it was enough for him to give life a second chance, and Lou, unbeknownst to her, fell quickly in love with him. He fought his pain for her, just to see her smile. He gave her a different pep in her step and a greater sense of self-esteem.

Love wasn’t enough in the end for him to stay in pain. His love for her was great enough that he didn’t want her to be stuck living a life surrounded by taking care of him. He went to another country to die peacefully all of course with her in his arms.

I cried at the end, but not the ugly, life-is-not-fair cry, but instead a peaceful cry of new beginnings. What Lou had now was a new sense of life and a new path to explore. Yes of course, like with all of these movies, he had money and she didn’t, but that was overshadowed with the genuineness of the movie, the softness of Emilia Clarke’s acting and the gorgeous smile of Sam Claflin.

So I play Majors song with a movie in my head, with a picture, to me of real love. Love to me isn’t the fairy-tale that everything is going to be perfect and harmonious at all times. Love to me is completely unconditional, completely selfless and pure. You have to love beyond all the good things about a person. You have to love the ugly, the impatience, the stubbornness; you have to love that person hard enough through times when they may not necessarily love themselves.

Now I could love this movie so much because it was 3 am and my heart was broken. It filled a void, but thats what a movie is supposed to do. Make you feel like you found the emotions that the movie is portraying. In my heart, the pieces have been mended and I feel as if I see life a little brighter, at least until the sun rises and reality sets in.

I have to say this movie is amazing and I am definitely going to read the book by Jojo Moyes.

Check out the movie trailer and music video by MAJOR!

Movie Trailer: https://youtu.be/T0MmkG_nG1U

Song (Why I Love You by MAJOR): https://youtu.be/FqiVMKJxWK0

Review Time!!!!

Get Out – Seriously Get The Hell Out!!!!

So I know I’m super late, but I FINALLY watched Get Out! This was a movie that I wanted to watch from the first trailer, but never had the time to see it. It was a good movie, but nothing I would buy or watch again unless its on t.v. for free, no I’m lying I actually wanna watch it again. Hold on…

So let me say this, for those of you who have not seen this movie…. SPOILER ALERT!!! I am about to tell spill some serious tea..

So this super black guy, and I say super black because he was a brother! Dark skinned, aware and awake, so I thought, that was dating this white woman. No big deal! So it was the weekend that they were supposed to be going to meet her family, this guy was super in love but asked the right question. ‘Do they know I’m black?’ See this is where I would’ve had the problem, old girl was like no, why… umm… chick do you know what is going on in America? In the world? Did you take history class? Will your parents mind that I am black?!!!! He didn’t do all of that, but I was seriously screaming it at the screen.

Like brotha, you are woke, but you need to check your gut feelings. So of course, they’ve been dating for a little while so he trusts her. I get it. So they ride down to some out of the way town, but he was smart. His best friend, who is the man by the way, knew where he was going. Which was a town no one had ever heard of.

But oh shorty is slick… when they get pulled over and the cop was super suspicious about him and asked for his ID she was down. I mean, like she knew the struggles and woes of the black man and stood by his side. ‘You don’t have to give him your ID.’ Yeah I was a little taken back by that too. She was on the money right? Like you could put your trust in her.

Let me tell you what had me acting like a mad man (I am so glad I was not in a theater because I would’ve been put all the way out), this guy was ignoring all the signs that something was wrong. He even explained to his friend and the dude told him they were being hypnotized. But no, he thought it was people who was upset with them being together or that the black guy working on the yard was into her.

BUT DAMMIT he was right! But just only hitting the tip of it. Crazy thing was she was in on it the whole time! The whole time. I know I skipped a lot, like how the parents reacted and the whole greeting and freaky brother, but you should watch the movie.

I will say this movie shows people who think about this, that this is 2017 and WE ARE NOT GOING! Please don’t try it. But it also shows in a deeper way, that you have to really know the people who are around us. Sometimes the people who are the closest to you are the ones you need to watch. Dating has always been crazy, but now, it can be even worse.

So if you haven’t seen it! Go watch it! Its good, and pulls you completely in. You will not want to walk away from the screen. Oh and keep your flash on your camera. Its takes the crazy out of people!

~Tiffany

Fences – a poor example of Black Families

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Fences was not as good as I thought it would be! Wait, hold up, let me give Denzel and Viola their props, they played the hell out of their roles and deserved every award they earned. So let me explain what I mean by that.

See every movie about black families and marriages always include some kind of games, unfaithfulness, abuse and/or alcohol. How do we expect black families to be successful if all we see is black families falling apart? What happened to the Huxtables? The Martin and Ginas? The Winslows? The Evans?

“Some people build fences to keep people out, and other people build fences to keep people in…”

All Rose (Viola) wanted was for Troy (Denzel) to build a fence. A fence that visually in her mind made her feel would keep her family together. What she had was a husband, who paid the bills, but cheated on her; a son who wanted to protect her but was forced to respect and fear a father who showed him no affection; and a daughter born from the dead mistress of her husband.

When Troy said he was unhappy with Rose and how he felt after eighteen years he was still sitting in the same spot, she spoke up about standing there with him. This woman abandoned her dreams and goals to be everything this man needed her to be. She cooked every time someone walked in the door, kept a house clean and prayed over her household.

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Black love = magic

In the era of Black Girl Magic I feel that although this was a good movie, it should be accompanied with other movies that show black girls to follow their dream.

Do you know that in the last 100 days, under the new administration hate groups have gone up? Not just against blacks, but against every non-white Christian group. A lot of the progress that the Obamas made are swept under the rug as if they never existed.

So I say again, Fences wasn’t as good as I thought it was, because to me it was sad. There are so many other ways to make relationships last, there are so much more to the black family and we should never have to give up our dreams or who we are to be with anyone. If anything, your kids suffer because they feel like life is all about settling.

Standing Up – In Any Way – Its Necessary!

“Dear White People” – Not your ordinary review!

So I just finished Netflix’s original “Dear White People” directed by Tina Mabry (http://www.morgansmark.com/) and baby let me tell you. First of all, Samantha, aka Sam, was me from the beginning, minus the romantic part. I have always been the girl that was questioned about what my racial heritage is –  I am black mixed with black mixed with why the hell does it matter? I am a black woman who is tired of being called the angry black woman when I cannot be treated the same as every one else, let alone every other woman.

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My black is beautiful

This show brought up so many emotions as I thought about how we are condemned for standing up for ourselves and yet ridiculed when we are quiet. We are told we should stop crying about the past, but who has learned from it? Not this current generation, but how can they when they are being taught the wrong thing. When has being kidnapped from your home, sold on a chopping block and beaten for being who you are considered being an immigrant? How can centuries of families torn apart, murdered tortured and killed called being treated right unless we misbehaved? These were grown men and women that were treated less than an animal. Had less rights than their unborn son or daughter and less to eat than a pet. Humans treated as if our color was a sin.

Yet we are supposed to forget and stop being so angry. Many of our black women weren’t angry until we have been walked over, used and abused. We are taught that we are all the same and we bleed the same, but yet why is my blood treated like its contaminated?

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Truth

I know it seems like I am all over the place, but Tina, baby you are to blame! There are so many emotions flooding through my mind from this show. It touched so many issues, some that I feel could’ve been deeper. You made me remember the reasons I fight, the reasons I am tired and the reasons I need to stand up for everything I believe in.

If you haven’t watched it yet, then you need to go to Netflix.com and if you don’t have an account, get one, its totally worth it! Check out “Dear White People”, I finished it in one night and now I am mad I have to wait for the next season. By the way, excellent job on the cast. They really deliver each character with passion.

Let me tell you, this show is real, and deals with real issues that black people deal with on a daily basis. Now while looking up cast and director information, I used IMDB.com and the nerve of them to classify the genre of this show as comedy. Another reason we will never learn, because our issues are never being taken serious. The comments on the Youtube trailer was that the video promotes racism to Caucasians. (I swear that’s a topic for another post… I have to process that mess.)

Until next time – Love and Peace!