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Breaking My Silence…

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Over the last month, I have been silent – not in real life, but virtually silent. I stopped writing because I felt like my writing was just because, it had no real meaning and no real purpose behind it. So I stopped and starting thinking about my next moves. During the last few months, I began watching a new sitcom…

THE BOLD TYPE

This show has made me think in more ways than ever because of course I am a mixture of Jane Sloan (Katie Stevens) and Kat Edison (Aisha Dee), because not only am I a writer who is FINALLY following her passion, I am also following my heart as well.

But this show envelops so many more emotions. It hits on the women topics that are often ignored or pushed to the side for matters that other people think are more important. I have always stood up for so many things in my life from racism, homophobia, and sexism. I always felt that I had to pick an issue, because together they don’t make sense.

But why?

Society makes you feel that if you are a black woman that you cannot attend the Women Marches, because you have to remember that you are a black person first. If you are a member of the LGBTQ community, you have to only stick with the “black” pride events because once again, you are black first. But as a black woman, when you march, you are told to hold down your black men first.

I say bullshit! In life we all want the same thing and that is to live our daily lives and be just as happy and feel just as safe as a straight white man. I’m not saying we hate him, or belittle him or down talk anyone, I am saying that why can we not all stand along side of each other. Screenshot 2017-09-06 22.18.15

 

Fighting a fight of whose fight is more important is getting us no where. While we are all fighting 45 is making and changing rules impacting all of our lives except those we are fighting to stand beside each other. We should ALL fight TOGETHER! 

 

 

Can you imagine the impact if every woman, every black, white, brown and in-between, every LGBTQ, every PERSON stood together and fought for us all to be equal? What if we all stood up and told the establishment that WE ALL MATTER?! I believe we would get so much further, but in my mind this works.

Then I think of all the fighting that we all do within our communities. The media always plays on black on black crime but there is women hating and talking down on each other, gay bashing from within, and jealousy always peeping up in any situation. We have to learn how to love ourselves before we can confront someone else about not loving us.

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I know I went deep but The Bold Type does that and the episode I watched tonight, “Carry The Weight” made me remember to carry mine and stand up for what I believe in,     ALL OF IT!

Love you, cause I do!

She is us… we are her… we could be.

Someone has lost their life… this is not a time to be petty and childish…

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Justine Damond, her name is something important, yes she is a white woman, but WHY DOES THAT MATTER? This woman, called the police for protection and instead she was shot dead in the street as if she was the person that was going to hurt them.

The media is spinning this again and making it a white vs black issue, just as they did with all of the others that was shot dead for no reason. I have seen some hateful things that black people are saying, acting as ignorant as the ones that spoke against our sisters and brothers who were murdered in the streets. Some even claiming blue lives, when we know there are no such thing as Smurfs.

The problem, as its always been, is there is a problem with the system. They have put officers who are supposed to protect us out on the street without proper training. They are so short of staff that they don’t have the time and resources to properly train them. It used to be shoot to disarm and now these officers are shooting scared.

“Their feared for their lives,” I have never heard a military man or woman say that and they are placed in the middle of war. They are taken through a training and protect us everyday with their lives. What happened to the police that did the same? My father and brother were dedicated war heroes who served on the Chicago police force. They were both attacked and they never killed a soul while on duty, at least not that I know of.

What happened to police officers who only wanted the job because they wanted to provide a safe place for people to live. We see the few and far between who are video tapped playing with children, delivering gifts and helping the community, but if they are placed with an officer as a partner who was corrupt would they stand up to him/her or would they stand behind them?

We are always told to be loyal to those who are loyal to us, but there comes a time and place when we have to stand up against whats wrong.

This was a woman, this was a human being, this was an innocent. We need to stop with racism and stop thinking its okay to hate anyone do to their skin color.

I know its a stretch, but if we come together and face the real problem, the system. They are fighting scared, and using a glitch in the laws to protect them. We need to fight back, fight back and change the system so that it protects us instead of killing us.

They need to be held accountable for the same standards as the rest of us, and they need to question why these law enforcers are so easy to scare, so easily afraid for their lives. They can’t protect ours and put their lives before us.

Stand together, because separate all it looks like its we are complaining. Lets make a real change and protect our childrens futures.

 

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Change You First – then the World

You say you’re ready for a revolution, but are you sure?

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You say you want a revolution, but are you sure? You say you are tired of people being oppressed and want changes and call everyone in the neighborhood out for not standing up but are you?

See sometimes we need to stand up and be the change we want to see. We say we want them to stop killing our brothers and want the police to be held accountable for killing our people, but yet when little Ray Ray gets locked up for killing three people – you post “Free My Mans!” You don’t step up and stop those young men who are out acting disgraceful and disrespectful and you are guilty yourself of locking your doors when you see three black men in hoodies. IMG_7064

We yell that women should get equal pay and there should be no gender stereotypes and double standards for women, yet you talked down about Amber Rose’s Slut Walk marketing, or talk bad about Black Chyna for doing what men have been doing for years. Don’t remember, look up Mary J Blige. I’ll wait.

You say you don’t tolerate racism but you a black person, the “most” oppressed person on this planet hate white people, nor do you stand for others that are oppressed because who has heard of the Puerto Rico movement for Independence, or fight for the Veterans who are homeless and starving. How often do you stop to feed someone you see hungry on the side of the road or give up some of your savings to help a cause.

We are so quick to talk about someone else’s agenda and don’t look within ourselves. Justice starts within you. You have to start being that person that you want the world to be. How can you complain about others mistreating you if you are still mistreating others?

I originally started writing an article about the different movements, but I feel like any good movement starts within. We are responsible for ourselves and how we treat others. You can fight for equality if you have some prejudices in you. You have to fight the fight as well.

Screenshot 2017-07-06 17.03.41I hate to say it but it seems as if this day today is mostly about complaining and no action. We see a peaceful movement that Colin Kaepernick started and many were talking so bad about how he was doing it but not why. If you stand for something, you should stand for it no matter where you are. If you are a cop and you see that one of your “CO-WORKERS” (let me stress that word) is acting ugly and using his power for granted, its up to you to stop him and call him out.

I have seen some of the bravest souls make a stand during football and they are talked down because they are told the field is sacred. Remember Beyonce’s Formation ‘Half-Time Show’? Why? You should stand up in front of people and not just behind a computer screen.

Its time to stand up, but we have to stand up first to ourselves. We can’t fix the world if we refuse ourselves to be fixed.

Any discrimination is unacceptable!

-Isms… I’m done with them all.

Why is it that is you stand for one thing you can’t stand for something else. In America, there is a thing called privileged but if you are not a straight white male, you don’t know the true meaning of that word, nor does it pertain to you.

I know some believe that all white people have a privilege attached to them, but if they were born with a vagina, that is simply not true. If that are attracted to the same sex, its not true.

I can feel my ancestors kicking me in my back and a few stares from my black peers. Yes racism is strong, and yes our black people are being killed in these streets for being a color that they cannot control. But its not just us. As much as we want to fight for equality, we should also hear the next persons complaints on why they are oppressed.IMG_7128

There are latinos who are still getting stereotyped in Hollywood and called Mexicans, no matter what country the originate from. They are portrayed as a sex symbol and men definitely don’t respect their women. For all points and purposes they are treated like our black men and women.

Asians, Muslims and Jewish are all disrespected. Women are disrespected, as well as the LGBT community.

We are all dying for the same rights. We are all fighting the same fight. Why can we not fight together?

I had a friend, whom out of respect I will remain nameless, who debated with me and thought because I was speaking up that I was only speaking up for the LGBT community. As if my blackness and me being a woman was thrown out the window because I am a member of that community. Last time I check I am still black, I am still a woman.

I have three strikes against me according to the current administration, so why do I have to pick one over the other to stand up for? I stand for justice for all. IMG_7194

Today I am pissed for several reasons and one is the results of the Philando Castile murder. He was murdered as a friend put it but we just don’t know who. Apparently the video his girl posted wasn’t enough for a conviction. The screams from her and his daughter wasn’t enough to put a man in jail for shooting his weapon in cold blood.

I am angry because a year after the Pulse shooting, people still have the nerve to think that we deserved it because we are sinners. As if their best friends sleeping with their husbands wasn’t a sin. As if the kids they had out of wedlock and the pointing fingers and judging others wasn’t the same. I am angry that people are using the Bible, the word of God, as a means to spread hate.

I am angry that Amber Rose posted a racy picture in honor of the annual Slut Walk and all people could do was call her the very thing she’s standing up against. Her biggest haters were women who wish they could post a picture of the same or who do but hate that she added a feminist words to it. A woman body is objectified daily and looked at as a means of sexual gratification whether we allow it or not. If she was topless it would be a problem, if she only showed thigh, it would still be a problem.

I am angry that everyone in the world is worried so much about how others live their lives that they will ruin their own to make someone else miserable. Gay marriage was voted in federally to be allowed in the United States and it has been a fight ever since. If two men get married how is it bothering your daily life? If two women are raising children in a household of love, why is that harmful but your house full of abuse and hatred isn’t?

I am tired of the hatred in this country, in this world. I feel like the current administration gave people who are filled with hate a platform to express it. Yes there is freedom of speech, but why is it ok for you to disrespect me, but not ok for me to respond? Even if nothing I said is laced with hatred.

America is no where near being great, I have no idea what era Trump was talking about. It seems to me that America is hate. Everyone is hating everyone else, yet everyone is fighting for the same thing. Respect!

The best way to get respect is to look internally and start respecting yourself. Then and only then will you gain respect of others.