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2018 – Year of Robotics

giphyI have been silent through the Kanye “crisis” and the latest trending topics, honestly I was tired of having to repeat myself and the blatant disrespect. I find that the attacks on him and his wife are unwarranted and wrong. So many of us have a difference of opinion, but when did it become ok to bash someone for thinking outside the box.

I understand what Kanye was trying to say, although I believe he worded it wrong, and honestly so many that I have seen comment on it have been saying the same thing. It seems like we have decided to take one way of thinking and make any other way unacceptable.

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When did we become this way? Its like everyone is trying to look the same, be the same and live the same way. Its either a full face of makeup or none at all. If someone does something different, they are not “normal”. People either wear expensive clothes and match, or they are eclectic, there is no in between. You are either all the way Pro-Black, or you’re a Feminist, or you fight for LGBT right, not a mix, thats not “normal”. But why?

Why is being who you are unapologetically not normal? I love Kanye, because he stands up for what he believes in, regardless if I agree with him or not. I respect his opinion. Its like we don’t do that anymore.

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My Kids are Afraid to go to School

We Need To Protect Our Children, It Wont Change Your Rights

After the mass shooting at Stoneman Douglas High School, there have been several more shootings or threats of shootings, including a shooting by a teacher that the politicians are pushing to arm.

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Photo by Heather Mount on Unsplash

“Its getting closer and closer Mommy.” My 14 year old comes home and talks to me daily about her anxiety and fear of something happening. I told her today that she will be fine and nothing will happen to her, and then I paused. How can I say that? I’m sure those kids who went to school felt safe and never afraid of anything except the normal teenage things, like a test or a crush.

Then it was their school…

sometime around midnight a few weeks ago there was a post circulating, that the school my kids attend was to be shot up the following day. There were factors that I thought about as I read it, it only said RHS. How many RHS’ were there in the world? Several I am sure, but this said Rison kids be careful.

My daughter was in tears and begging for me not to let them go the next day. I pictured all the things that could’ve gone wrong. I imagined how many parents wish they would’ve listened to their kids begging them to stay home, how many warnings that were not taken seriously. So I decided they wouldn’t go. I called the police who offered no information, because the officer “just got on and had no information” (a simple hold on, let me find out would’ve sufficed, and his huff like I was annoying him as he hung up was heard as well…. I understand the police get a lot of calls but have patience).

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The principal posted a FB message around midnight, that I didn’t see until the next day that said it was for another state, I believe Ohio. Like that was supposed to calm us down and make us send our kids to school. My kids decided to go at 1 p.m. I wasn’t the only one who decided to keep their kids home, as many assignments and tests were rescheduled because half the school was out. I have to admit, I expected there to be police officers on campus to protect the kids and staff that did show up, just in case, there was not one. The girls said there wasn’t any though out the rest of the day either.

To say I was a mess for those four hours, would be an understatement. I couldn’t sit still and none of my conversations made much sense. I was stressed and I was scared. I kept my phone close because I told my kids that for today put their phones on silent instead of off. I told them to pay attention to their surroundings, where to hide and to not run. That if a shooter was to show up to the school be still until the police releases them.

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The school should’ve had a conversation or assembly discussing the fear and what to do in case, but once again, just like when the child who committed suicide, it was swept under the rug. My daughter has a full plan in place, and knows which classes have locks and are safe. My daughter shouldn’t have had to make this plan for herself, we as parents, those of us in congress and us as voters need to stop letting the NRA run and pay for the discussion on gun control to be quieted. h

To make matters worse, instead of talking about what to do, legislators are too busy talking down on teenagers who speak up for themselves, or blame the victims and say that they were the blame in some form or fashion. Bullying is a problem, but that doesn’t give anyone a reason to shoot and kill several people, besides with this kid, it wasn’t the case.

So what do we do? Its hard enough as a parent of teenagers of color, with the threat of police brutality, and racial profiling, but now we have to deal with the fact that any kid can get and own a gun. Lets not even begin to discuss the fact that they want to arm the teachers. Teachers who have way too many titles, already stressed out and get far too less pay.

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There has got to be a better way, the NRA won’t allow people to have to give away their guns, but we need a compromise. War guns have no reason on the streets or accessible to civilians. An AR-15 should be for military use only. But its not only that,  its the availability to guns. Over half the kids our school district have guns and are proud of them, but shouldn’t they have a license? To drive a car you have to have a permit and take a test to get a license. Why can’t the same be done for guns.

You shouldn’t be able to go in a store and pick up a gun like a gallon of milk. There needs to be stricter regulations, because the guns are now in our schools. They are coming after our children. Something needs to be done. We need to change the conversation or vote the ones who don’t want to out.

 

Featured image: Photo by Heather Mount on Unsplash

No Review – I am judging the racist.

Its time out for the exclusions and separations.

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I know its Thursday, the day I have scheduled to do reviews.. but today, I don’t feel like much of a review, at least not of a book, movie or television show. I will save that for next week. This week, I want to talk about the failed system protecting these kids, protecting us.

“A system cannot fail those it was never meant to protect.” – W.E.B. DuBois

I live in a small town in Arkansas, a town with more animals that black people and the population is less than 500. I only moved here due to circumstances beyond my control, but I accepted it and I am here. I knew I wasn’t welcomed here when the woman across the street made sure her confederate flag faced my house, when people stared a little longer because not only were we black, but we weren’t the black kind that tries to fit in.

I have been feeling the pressures of being black in this house and in this county. It seemed that during Christmas time, we were everyones charity case. The family that everyone did so much for and said it was because I was a single mother of four girls and a caretaker of two elderly, I accepted. I have never been above anything free, but I found that everything free, comes with a price. Comes with a cost.

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A UPS driver came over one day with is sister in his truck (violation, right), to bring a dog house for my larger dog. His house wasn’t quite big enough and he didn’t like it. I thought it was a blessing, as odd as it was. He had no package to deliver, but offered to help out a lady and her dogs. His sister came off as helpful, someone who wanted to help keep my costs down and offered to send her vet friends to look at my dogs for free. I trusted this woman, until the phone calls became to frequent. The accusations that I could not care or pay for my dogs care. She assumed that because I was black, that I was poor.

Now I am not the richest person, nor do I have a lot, but my family has always been blessed. So her assumptions was wrong. She came over a few more times, in her UPS brothers truck, with dog food and a handout of help. I declined her help anymore and decided they had visited enough. Her visits stopped, although her brother continued to come by daily in his truck, according to her, to feed my dogs. (We ALWAYS had enough food to feed our dogs. We never asked for her help).

Last Friday, I received a call from Kim (I will not change her name because she mad a fool of me and I am not above making her look foolish). She offered to purchase my dogs from me. Now anyone that knows me, knows that my dogs are my babies. They are like my children. I rescued Chip, and Bella was given to us from an unwanted litter. I didn’t choose my dogs, they chose me. I am proud of my dogs and how they grow. Now Chips weight goes up and down and anyone that doesn’t know that, may look at him and think he’s sick, but he’s not.

She warned me that I would change my mind. So what happens today? The sheriffs come to my door and first gives me a warning and says that my dogs are healthy looking, only to return 45 minutes later saying I was a liar and I didn’t tell him I didn’t buy the dogs houses. (Why does that matter?) I was issued a criminal offense ticket of cruelty to animals, he said because my dogs didn’t have 24 hour access to water. *blank stare*

My dogs are a bit glutton and if I give Chip a big bowl of water, he will drink it until he throws up. I give him water when I feed him, and sometimes in between, especially depending on the weather. So now I have court.

Here’s my problem, Kim’s brother should’ve NEVER been on my property without a package to deliver nor should his sister been in his vehicle. Plus he was speaking to my children without my permission. (No… called UPS and they are “limited” on what they can do, oh but keep them updated.)

“I didn’t learn to be quiet when I had an opinion. The reason they knew who I was is because I told them.” ~ Ursula Burns

All this the same week that a boy commented on my daughters hoodies, asking if being shot by police was a black persons super power. All after the principle said that he will not address complaints of racism, to talk to the Assistant Principle.

Arkansas, I stood up for you. As much as its is a state that is all white vs black and KKK filled, I stood up for you, and now I am facing a felony and jail time that is equal to more than a murder of a person because I didn’t have a water bowl continuously filled for my dogs? With all the strays up and down Highway 79, why are my dogs on trial?

Screenshot 2018-01-25 20.19.39I am not dumb, I know my rights, and I have my proof. I cannot wait until court, because once again, I am assumed to be dumb, black and poor. I am assumed to go to court with a “no sir, yes sir” attitude. They picked the wrong black person if thats the case. I will not be run from this little racist ass town, nor will I bow down to the bullshit at stake.

So today I review and judge RACISM, and I am OVER IT! Sorry, but you will not have a head down sister over here. I will win, and I will still be here when the smoke clears. Smiling and possibly having a few new jobs to my disposal.

Sorry for the rant, but I am a pissed off sista with an agenda. 

The Black Woman’s Cry

Screenshot 2018-01-20 21.50.22 I am a black woman, an activist for LGBT rights, women’s rights, and black lives. I stand for equality for everyone, although many of those people I fight for do not find a reason to fight for me.

“I didn’t learn to be quiet when I had an opinion. The reason they knew who I was is because I told them.” ~Ursula Burns

As a black woman, I go through several forms of disrespect a day, whether its a man and his obnoxious cat calls or inappropriate inbox messages, a white woman who grabs her purse if I reach for something near her in a store, or looked upon by a cashier as an annoyance when I pay for groceries for my family with a government given card.

I remember as a child I had a teacher tell me that I had three strikes against me. I was black, a woman and some other reason which I cannot remember now, but that third reason now, is because I am a part of the LGBT community.

I stand in protest with everyone and as an extra body I am welcomed but when I ask for respect I am ignored. I read an article from another black blogger who stated why she would not attend another Women’s March and she was not the first I have heard this before. According to many, not just by word of mouth, but also by videos posted to YouTube and Facebook, when black woman are in attendance to the woman’s movement, they are acted like they don’t belong. Like our issues are not their issues.

“Black girls loving themselves will always offend people who don’t see a reason for a black girl to be loved.” @onlyrickjames (Twitter)

I have seen many whitesplaining that mention us putting aside our difference for the “Women issues”, but as a black woman, our issues are doubled, if not tripled. We are told to be quiet, to not complain, to accept what is and keep moving. We have carried the world on our shoulders for centuries. We breast-fed white babies during slavery to be beaten by those same children who drank from us, we were the head of our households and the backbones of our families when black men were forced to leave and when they started leaving on their own. We have been behind many powerhouse moves, like the defeat of Roy Moore. Yet we are ignored until they need us.

A high percentage of white women who are protesting Trump voted for him, and now they look at us like we should forget the racist comments he has made and only focus on the sexual abuse scandals and belligerent disrespect he has for women. No we cannot. We need to focus on ALL the issues.

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Imagine a world with no labels. No one boxed for being a man, woman, child, adult, senior, LGBT, black, white, Christian, Jewish, Muslim, no religion, disabled, veteran, employed and not. Imagine that we looked at disrespect and realized its a character flaw no matter who its against. See the funny thing is we all want respect and to be able to sleep at night comfortably, surrounded by the things and people we love. We all want to make a name for ourselves, or fulfill our purpose. Imagine if we all worked together instead of working against each other? Why does one set of people have to be miserable for the next to be happy?

As J.Cole said if we take down our leaders, the next to get on top will take advantage of their new found power. But what if we eliminate power and lead with compassion. Lead with making life easier for everyone?

Black women have been kept silent and given reasons like they would hurt our families, our reputation and our name. As outspoken we are called angry black women, which causes many of us to lose our voices or to be silenced.

Screenshot 2018-01-20 21.57.23A black woman’s cry is everyones cry, because we fight beside all of you, but who turns around and pulls us up? Listen to the black woman’s cry, because our cries and our strength is what is holding up this country, despite if you believe in us. Don’t support us when we are on top and then take our credit and push us aside. We are importance to history, a legacy in our own and a power to be reckoned with.

Happy New Year!!!!

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Ok, I’m like 15 days late, but better late than never right. I can’t believe its 2018! It seemed like just yesterday we were bringing in 2017. This year has been full of ups and downs for my family and I but we survived and brought the New Year in with a new set of challenges.

Oh but we are super ready for it!

I plan on this year getting back to my voice. I have been writing for others as a content writer and forgetting to put my words into the world, as well as my opinion. I have made a goal of reading/listening to 100 books on Goodreads. (Follow me on there and hold me accountable and watch my progress.) Also suggest books for me to read. I love reading and will more then likely review new writers to me and some new to the industry as well. Every Thursday, there will be a review of some sort as before.

Also I am an activist, so once a week, and only once a week, I will talk about something political or give my support or non support to a cause, with my reasonings.

More content, more reading, more of me!!!! There are also some amazing things coming that I cannot wait to tell you about, but patience is a virtue, one that I don’t really have, but one that I hope that you all do. I will also talk more about me and the things that hold me back, my issues, illnesses and struggles, because so many bloggers either only talk about their issues or act like they don’t have any, and let me tell you, I have many.

So sit back, watch your notifications and go on the journey of 2018 with me.

Love you guys!!!!